Abstaining from Abstinence: Buggin’ Out Redux

So I was checking web stats the other day and I laughed over the most popular article of the day: based on the key search words “pitcher and catcher.” There’s always a pattern for the spikes in hits, and that phrase gets HUGE results. (I had no idea. Truly.) Looking over the high-hit posts, I noted that Buggin’ Out was one of the most popular posts. (Usually this has something to do with a cross-link somewhere.)

So I went to the site to check out the latest articles and the one titled above (“Abstinence! Abstinence! Rah! Rah! Rah!”) really resonated with me. It seeks to find truth underneath the Christian-ese.

It’s here.

It stitches together with something that Pastor Bent once told me, that healing came not when you found yourself not looking at semi-naked men and lusting for them, but when you see one of those half-naked guys and care more about their souls than their flesh. I’m not fully there yet — I can manage to do it at times — but it’s definitely healthier than thinking that mere abstainence is going to lead to healing.

Go read.

~ by WriterRand on December 29, 2007.

4 Responses to “Abstaining from Abstinence: Buggin’ Out Redux”

  1. Great post. I found your site today and wanted to say Praise God for your victories!

  2. Yes, that was a great article. The main point that I found to be true is that I should gladly give myself to helping the sick, the poor, the drug-addicted, the schizophrenic, the depressed… When I show my love for God by loving others that way, I actually find healing and great fulfillment for myself.

    A few weeks ago I spent an evening with a deluded and quite paranoid friend. He thought he saw someone watching him – that person was definitely not there in reality. He warned me that there were hidden microphones in my car. He was absolutely tortured with fear. Somehow, I found it very satisfying to respond to his bizarre comments by showing him love, listening, telling him that God was there for him, and praying with him. My friend, who btw is very straight, hugged me and told me I was a true friend to him.

    We don’t find healing in pursuing heterosexuality, we find healing in pursuing God! One way He has given us to pursue Him is to show love to “the least of these”.

    Matthew 25:40 (ESV) And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’

  3. Yes. I also was smacked in the face with a healthy dose of hope, truth and humor. I had never heard anyone joke about the struggle. Everyone on the right is so serious about it that I could not help but wonder why the “pro-family: organizations have not promoted and delved into it for their material. So many times conservative groups like Focus on the Family attack the gay community instead of simply offering Jesus’ love….

    I spend the entire night pouring over these articles and had trouble breathing at times because my body was laughing and crying at the same time. And something happened afterward. I had a spirit of peace about me.

    I guess laughter (check out the article “The Darker Side of Brotherhood”)is the best medicine and I thank buggin out for being bold (and creative) enough to be the first to promote truth in a hysterical format. Totally off the hook and underappreciated by the media.

  4. Luis, welcome!

    Yeah, these guys (or is it just one person?) completely nails the truth with so much humor and grace that it completely releases you to understand just how loved you are in Christ and the enormity of that love. I almost want to prescribe this guy like a spiritual antibiotic: here, read a column or two and you’ll feel better.

    Praying this guy just gets bigger and better distribution in the ex-gay field. He deserves the soapbox more than a lot of bloggers out there (myself included).

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